Hmm. What would you like to know about me? Well, first and foremost, I am a quiet thinker. I like to think things through before committing myself to anything. In other words, I do not join causes because they are "popular."
You should probably also know that I will occasionally put my thoughts on a mental/emotional/spiritual back burner to "cook" until the answers are ready to reveal themselves to me. This can be frustrating for some because if they want an answer "right now" and I don't have one I will be honest with them and tell them that I don't have an answer for them yet.
The one thing you will always get from me is honesty. The truth may come out in bits and pieces over time but I will not lie to you. We all have our haunted pasts and I am no different. All I ask is that you please be patient with me because my past is particularly haunted and it may take me a while to pull the answers you are looking for out of the jumbled mess that is my personal history.
Another thing you should probably know is that while we will be working through a language barrier that is only half the problem because even though my native language is English it is not always my best friend. Translating thoughts into words is not always easy for me. I do the best I can but sometimes it just doesn't want to work.
I try to keep myself in shape through exercise and strive to improve myself (spiritually) through various means.
No, I'm not perfect but I do try to base most, if not all, of my actions upon the principles of Universal and Unconditional Love.
Please consider the following: For me to love someone is to care deeply both for and about the growth, evolution and development of their soul. Unconditional love, for me anyway, is the ability to care deeply both for and about the growth, evolution and development of a person's soul no matter what they may or may not have done and no matter where they may or may not have been (spiritually). Universal and Unconditional Love is the ability to care deeply both for and about the growth, evolution and development of all souls no matter what they may or may not have done and no matter where they may or may not have been (spiritually).
This is the kind of love I have to offer and it is this kind of love that I am hoping to receive in return.
The last thing you should know - at least so far as this site is concerned - is that I am not a "player." I dedicate myself to one relationship at a time. I do not strive to pursue multiple relationships simultaneously, hoping that one will "stick." I am looking for one, very special young woman and the only way I am going to find her is if I dedicate myself to getting to know one ... candidate at a time.
It occurred to me a while back - when a friend was going through a divorce - that for a lot of people the dating process is a lot like a political campaign. They will say or do just about anything to get "elected" but once the election has been won all of the things they've said and done, all of the promises they've made to get elected mean absolutely nothing.
It is for this reason that I am not going to promise you the world. I am a firm believer in honesty, honor and integrity and that is what you will get from me - honesty, honor and integrity.
My life's experiences may be a little hard for some of you to handle so I must ask you to please try to keep an open mind. I don't fit into any of the usual "boxes." As a matter of fact I honestly don't even think the "box" for me exists.
I have a number of plans for the future and I am hoping, possibly beyond hope, to find my ... mate(?), soulmate(?), partner(?), companion(?) on this site so that we can face this future together.
Now, before you get all excited and start thinking that I might be the man for you there are some things you should know about me.
Some might say that I am taking a huge risk by being this open with you in my profile but I don't want to waste anyone's time and I figure the best way to do that is to be as open and honest as I can be from the start.
Almost 50 years ago I had an accident that probably should have killed me. As a matter of fact, it may have done just that because I did have a near death experience as a result of this accident but it wasn't like any of the near death experiences you are probably familiar with. I didn't go into the light and I didn't have any of the experiences that are usually associated with near death experiences. I did, however, meet with an aspect of God and was given a tour of Creation. I was sent back when I asked my host how I could learn more of its ways.
The accident itself was a fall of about seven meters from the boughs of a tree and a head-first collision with a concrete driveway. This collision essentially crushed the right parietal region of my skull. [Put your right hand about eight centimeters above your right ear and spread it out. That much of my skull was shattered and was replaced with a plastic plate made of denture material.]
Besides the near death experience thing I was given the challenge of overcoming the all-but-complete paralysis of the left-hand side of my body. I say all-but-complete because I was able to overcome most of it. All that is really left is the partial paralysis of my left arm and hand and the fact that my eyes are not exactly straight.
I can only really safely use one eye at a time. Otherwise I have to deal with all kinds of double vision and that gets confusing at the best of times.
So what does this mean? It means that no matter how much I might want to I cannot look you in the eye with both eyes at the same time. I'm sorry but it is quite simply a physical impossibility for me.
Now then, for at least the past forty years ... it may be more but I really don't know ... I have been, through force of habit more than anything else, an observer and student of this thing we call Life. My particular field of interest has always been the spiritual regularities that make our interactions possible. As an example as to how this works I include the following:
I work the night shift (22:00 thru 06:00) in an assisted living home where I help take care of a number of elderly residents. I think the youngest might be in his early 80s and the oldest might be in her late 90s.
When I went in to work the other night the girl I was taking over from made the comment that they were unable to change the catheter bag on one of the residents because he wouldn't let them do it.
This was confusing to me because I had never had any problem with it.
One of the first things I did after I started my shift (I have the nasty habit of showing up a little more than an hour early to get the noisy part of my work done before the other shift leaves) I went in and changed his bag. He didn't say anything and we didn't have any problems with it.
It occurred to me while I was getting the dining room set up for the morning that we all have spiritual relationships with the people in our lives. It is these relationships that make it possible for us to interact and do things together. These relationships can also get in the way of doing certain things (like changing a catheter bag).
These relationships are, at their core, based upon experience and trust. The more two people trust each other the more they can accomplish as a team.
Now here's the thing. We are all spiritual beings [I don't know if you believe in reincarnation or not but for me it is kind of a given.] and the spiritual relationships we form - even if they were formed hundreds or even thousands of years ago - do not go away.
People are fond of saying that they are looking for something called "chemistry" when they are looking for their partners. Well, that "chemistry" is the result of a longstanding spiritual relationship that your soul has had with the other person's soul. To put it simply, you trust each other on a deeply spiritual level.
Another point to consider is this: Part of the problem with this old world is that we - its inhabitants - are stuck in a series of never-ending cycles of violence and we are not currently being allowed to release the spiritual energies associated with these cycles so that we can put an end to it and bring true peace into this world. There are several different kinds of violence that are currently cycling around this world and I do not want to become a part of any more of them than I absolutely have to.
So what does that mean? It means that if we should meet and get to know each other, even if the "chemistry meter" is at 100 percent, friendship is as far as it's going to go ... at least for a while.
As a final note please know that I do not have a lot of pictures of myself and I am not into taking a lot of "selfies." I am, however, able to produce a video every now and again, which I will so that you will be able to get a better idea as to what I look and sound like.
Now then, in light of this pandemic that is currently all the rage [No, I am not making light of it but neither am I letting it control my life.] I honestly don't know when I will be able to travel outside of my home country again. Because of this I am asking you to please be patient. Let us please take this opportunity to get to know each other on a … spiritual level. If you want to get to know me please ask the questions that are important to you. They can be relationship questions, questions about Life, Love, relationships, the future or whatever else is on your mind and I will answer them to the best of my ability. These questions will tell me a lot about who you are as a person and how compatible we may or may not be as a couple.
I look at it this way: If we are able to have in depth conversations now, while we are apart and just getting to know each other then the pattern will be set for our future should we “click.” Communication will not be a problem. Yes, we may have to work through a language barrier but if we can begin our relationship by being open and honest with each other then I see no reason why we should not continue being open and honest with each other on down the line.
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My ideal match is someone who is open minded and thoughtful. She is both willing and able to think for herself. She should understand what it means to love someone unconditionally and strive to live accordingly. I ask this because I am far from perfect and will make mistakes.
She should strive to improve herself physically, intellectually, emotionally and spiritually.
I am not looking for someone who is so wrapped up in herself that she cannot see beyond her own wants, needs and desires. At the same time, however, I am not looking for someone who is so altruistic that she neglects herself. I am looking for someone is balanced.
I'll be honest with you. I am drawn towards those who are on the slim to athletic end of the spectrum. That said, however, I have met and observed a number of women who were decidedly cuddly who were extremely beautiful on the inside as well as a number of women who were very attractive on the outside but whose personalities reminded me of fingernails screeching down a chalkboard.
While I cannot say that it is an absolute requirement, the more natural you are physically, intellectually, emotionally and spiritually the better. In other words, please, no silicone, botox or plastic. I just want you to be you, not some kind of "doll."