How to Avoid Being Scammed
What do to if You Suspect a Scammer
How to Avoid Being Scammed
- The best way to avoid being scammed is not to send the
girl any money or valuable things. At least not until after
you are 100% sure that she is real. You should have corresponded
with her for a long period of time, spoken on the phone,
or even met her, before considering sending her money.
- Don't emphasize the fact that you have money. Talk about
your hobbies, movies, plans for the future - anything. The
subject of money will only attract scammers and gold-diggers.
- From the beginning of your correspondence, if you feel
that you have found a mutual interest, mention coming to
Russia, and maybe even visiting her. This will scare off
any potential scammers.
- Also mention that you would like to talk to her over
the phone. This is usually not as effective, as a girl might
decline due to poor English skills, or lack of a phone (which
is not too uncommon in the countries of the former Soviet
Union), but it will make a scammer feel uncomfortable.
- If she writes to you about correspondence expenses, you
can offer to pay for the mail forwarding yourself. This
would not involve sending any money to her personally. If
she's an honest girl who's sincerely interested in you,
she will accept this offer gladly. If not, she will disappear
and you'll not have wasted either your time or money.
- Read the warning
signs. Also, ask her for her postal address, and use
it to check up on her in our database. Try sending her something:
a letter, a photo of yourself, or a rose from us. If she
doesn't receive it, something could be wrong. We
will gladly help you out by visiting the address personally
within 24-48 hrs of you ordering our service, and confirming
the existence of an address or a person.
- Here's a neat trick: send her a blank letter. A real
girl will either ignore it, or write back, asking why you
sent her a blank letter. Some scammers will write back,
thanking you for your wonderful letter, reminding you that
they love you. This also works with 'jibberish' letters.
Send two pages of nonsense ('aldj afleifej; feijfai eniaf')
and wait for her reaction.
If you should find out that she is a scammer, don't forget
to report her to her agency or website. This will help prevent
any future incidents.
- If she sends you photographs, take note: does she look
like a 'real' person? Most real women can't afford to have
expensive studio-shots done. Ask yourself this: why is she
mentioning how short for cash she is when she can afford
to have her hair and make-up done for an expensive photo-shoot?
Also watch out for nude or suggestive photos. Most women
with pure intentions wouldn't do something that drastic.
Also watch out for women young enough to be your daughter.
- Overly tender letters at the very beginning of your correspondence.
For example if she calls you "My Darling", or
signs her first letters to you "with love".
- Vague letters with no or few questions about you. She
may write very loving letters about how much she needs you,
misses and loves you, yet doesn't seem interested in you
personally. A lady seriously considering marriage will obviously
- Your questions are never or rarely answered. A real girl
will understand that you have questions about her, and try
to answer them. A scammer might not even read your email.
- Her letters may seems like "form" letters,
and if she is a scammer, they are form letters. They're
usually sent out in order - reply 1, reply 2, etc. If she's
working on many people at once, you may even receive letters
addressed to someone else. Her letters may become progressively
sexual, and her photos more seductive. This is a common
theme throughout the varying scams.
- Hint's about how expensive Internet cafes are. They really
are expensive, but most Russian, Ukrainian and FSU ladies
don't use Internet cafes for their correspondence. The majority
of girls will have Internet access at work, or through a
friend. They may pay someone for this service, but if they
claim it's costing them $50 - $100 per month, you need to
be suspicious. Besides Internet cafes, there are business
centers in almost every city where e-mail can be sent and
received very inexpensively.
- A tragedy occurred and money is urgently needed. This
is the most common scam used. It usually comes up after
she's corresponded with you for a while. The story could
be almost anything - one of her parents are ill, or got
hit by a car and could die unless an expensive operation
is performed; her money was lost or stolen, the rent is
due and she could be evicted and end up on the streets.
There are endless variations to this theme. You shouldn't
fall for this unless you've met the girl and her family
in person, or otherwise know the story could be true.
- She wants to visit you in the USA, and needs money for
the visa/tickets. While it is possible for a women to obtain
a tourist visa to visit the USA, it's would be very difficult.
A certain income level must be met and there are many restrictions.
While it's less trouble for a Russian or Ukrainian citizen
to visit other countries within the FSU, this remains one
of the most common scams. Most real women would prefer that
you visited them in their home country, where they could
be in familiar surroundings and introduce you to their family.
some scammers know of these warning signs and how to
avoid arousing suspicion. Be patient. A loving and faithful
relationship takes time to build, and scammers will
get restless. They wait for the easier prey, especially
for those men who seem to be new at meeting Russian
women. We encourage you to tell
us about any suspicions you might have, or any topics
we haven't discussed.
What to do if You Suspect a Scammer
- Don't send her any money.
list for her name and browse for her photo. If
you don't find her there, send us an email.
can take advantage of our service,
in which we will visit her, delivering her a single
rose. We will give you a confirmation, and upon your
request, take her photo or check her passport.
after consulting with us, you decide she's not a scammer,
you can continue your relationship without any needless